How Does One Fly a Kite without a String...???

[Alex]

How does one fly a kite without a String?

When we discover the Kite, the world becomes an eclectic menage' with no bounds or barriers.

Once the throes of looking up at the dancing kite have sparked us, we naturally want to attach. The string becomes our line of communication between the known and the unknown.

The nuances of the string further ensnare us.

We hold on to the string and we get a reaction.
We pull, tug, sway, dip, reel out, reel in. We admire the kite as it dances freely in sky, yet we want it tethered to our own heart.

The string gives life to the kite. If we let go of the string, the kite would surely fall to the ground. No longer would the kite dance freely in the sky if what held it let go.

How do we let the kite dance freely without the string?

[soulfilms]

i have never flown a kite in my life.

(i haven't done many 'rite of passage' kid things in my life such as fishing, bowling, scouts/guides, marched in a parade, sang karaoke in a public place, attempt to decapitate things [person or animal]) so i am ill equipped in life's struggles.

i'm sure there's a beautiful, poetic metaphor in this but i am toooooooooooooooooooooooooo tired to think right at this moment. i'll get back to you on this at a future point in time when my brain is back to normal.

[Alex]

but you know about key parties...sheesh!

Actually (hehehehe) in your stuporous state, you have come up with a clever rejoinder. We don't always have to fly the kite, we can watch someone else mishandle, er handle the delicate nature how much force to put on the string.

[soulfilms]

yes. i seemed to have missed out on those 'intermediary' kids activities and got straight into the adult stuff (such as key parties).

watching others fail is far more uncomfortable than failing for yourself.

[Alex]

hmmmm...it seems to me it should depend on the effort put forth. In theory, if you don't know the person is going to fail ahead of time, then observing/helping should not be a loathsome task.

Then you put forth your effort, the help you gave to others comes back as experience.

[soulfilms]

if you did know they'd fail and you watch them fail earnestly, then it is a horrid experience. whilst i say this, i still usually won't stop anyone from failing.

[Alex]

A very interesting circumstance/scenario you bring up.
YOU'VE GOT TO SEE "ABOUT A BOY"...!!!

First off, IF it's completely obvious they will fail, then some type of diplomacy to at least understand why they are trying seems a reasonable approach to take. (For instance, Shatzy will forever revile me, or forever be ambivalent toward me, or both, and you know this, yet you say nothing.)

If the reason they are moving forward is "noble" or at least is in earnest, then your support can make the difference.

[soulfilms]

i'm one of those people that would sometimes rather take a backseat on life and just observe what happens around me. at parties, pubs, wherever, i can just settle myself, sit in the corner and watch the procession of life before me. i will not actively seek out company or conversation. if conversation comes my way, i'll partake if i feel like it. if conversation goes away, i won't chase it. so having said that, i don't suppose myself a person that'd inform someone they're failing.

[Alex]

But if you were in the back of a plane being taken over by terrorists, would you pee in your pants?

[soulfilms]

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size=2 face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">quote:</font><table border="0" width="90%" bgcolor="#333333" cellspacing="1" cellpadding="0"><tr><td width="100%"><table border="0" width="100%" cellspacing="0" cellpadding="2" bgcolor="#FF9900"><tr><td width="100%" bgcolor="#DDDDDD"><font size=2 face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">Originally posted by Alex:
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First off, IF it's completely obvious they will fail, then some type of diplomacy to at least understand why they are trying seems a reasonable approach to take. (For instance, Shatzy will forever revile me, or forever be ambivalent toward me, or both, and you know this, yet you say nothing.)

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are you holding that against me?